As unfortunate as it may be, there may come a time when you realize that divorce is the only way to better your life. If you find yourself in this position, you know how difficult it can be to move forward with the process.
Asking your husband for a divorce can be one of the most troubling things you ever do. This is even more so the case if the person doesn't see it coming.
While there is no way to completely avoid the stress associated with this, here are some tips to follow:
- Be prepared for anything and everything. You never know how your husband will react, so it's important that you are prepared for everything. Adding to this, if you have reason to believe that he could become violent, it's best to ask for a divorce in a public place or over the phone.
- Choose the right time and place. For example, you don't want to ask for a divorce while you're eating Sunday dinner with the rest of your family. This is a private matter and you need to put some time and effort into choosing the right time and place.
- Be gentle. This isn't a time for you to verbally attack your husband or place blame. Instead, you should be gentle as you explain yourself. Even with this approach, you also need to remain firm.
- Don't discuss all the details. For now, you're simply telling your husband that you want to move forward with the divorce process. You don't have to discuss the finer details, such as who will get the house, where the children will live, and matters associated with child and spousal support.
All in all, there is no easy way to ask your husband for a divorce. Even if both of you know this is coming, it is still a difficult conversation that can take many twists and turns.
As long as you know what you want to accomplish, as long as you are compassionate and thorough during the discussion, you'll feel better once it's over and done with. At that point, you can get the legal help you need to move forward with the divorce and hopefully put your life on a better track.